Picture this, a long “ugh”, while stomping off into the distance with arms crossed and completely at a loss for words. The frustration begins to steep. Then follows a long gush of tears. Instead of sorting through thoughts and distinguishing feelings and emotions, this little toddler reacted with an over whelmed burst of frustration and aggravation.
Even as adults, these mumbled up emotions find there way creeping back into our lives. We may think the sky is falling and the world isn’t just spinning, “my world” is spinning. Nothing seems to be in orbit and everything is out of line. That is when every emotion possible seems to fight it’s way to the forfront. Wanting to burst into tears all while fighting the urge to throw something or perhaps, feeling so exhausted that laughing and tears form just about as uniquely as a morphed butterfly-monkey. Crazy, right? Yet, this hodgepodge of emotion exist and becomes a mushed up, sloppy spaghetti serving.
So How Do We Take Control and Make Waffles Out of Spaghetti?
Make a List
Writing down all of the things that are concerning you will help you to decipher it’s importance. Write how those concerns make you feel and why. Who or what is involved. Place a priority or date of urgency note on them. As time passes, concerns carry on too, you will be able to mark things off of your list and have a visual aid in sorting your emotions.
Compart-mental-ize
After making a physical list, place your concerns into a mental storage system. Picture a large wall with creatively colored boxes storing all of you thoughts and emotions. By doing this, you have allowed your mind not to be consumed with concern. Knowing it’s all up there and easily accessed if it needs to be addressed. However, definitely don’t suppress emotions. Hiding those boxes in the dark corners will surely make there presence known. They tend to show up out of no where and allowing one to “trip” up on unnecessary outburst.
Don’t Worry
Get up out of that rocking chair that won’t get you anywhere. If you don’t have influence on the situation, then you are waisting your emotional time and stability. Worrying has a way of taking over. Completly bullying itself to be priority. It will drain oneself physically and emotionally. Making you more vulnerable of emotional outburst. Choose not to worry. It is that simple. Allowing our minds succumb to worry is no more than being a victim of fear. Fear is negative. Therefore, it will have no positive outcome. Fear breads anxiety and depression. Allowing worry to take over is simply giving in. Find a resource of courage, and positive thoughts. Get active, do something for others. This will switch your thought process and push worry out the door.
Talk to Someone
Suppressing one’s true feelings and holding thoughts in, almost always will, at some point, put on a fireworks show, raining down it’s confetti of emotions. A listening ear really comes in handy when it comes to this one. Releasing the tension inside will help one to gain perspective. Talking it out is like releasing the ever built up pressure in Old Faithful, the Geyser. A geyser is a vent on the surface of earth that eventually releases pressure from the heated boil that is underground. If we have an outlet, a place to confide, and slowy release presure, we become less of a volcanic eruption and more of a steaming geyser.
Self Sooth
Just as a bird flutters it’s wings in a shallow bird bath, refreshing it self and lightening the weight of the dust that may have settled, this little bird has allowed it self to be soothed, to be comforted, to be relieved of unwanted attachments that would otherwise hold it down. Now it will be ready to fly high, facing the winds and using the wind as it’s propeller to face new heights. It is helpful to focus on ones self. Being aware and addressing the needs of ones self allows for being your best for others and facing difficult situations. This intern, will help one to maintain emotional stability. What are your needs? So often, when consumed with worry, it is easy to become numb to those needs. Being aware of ones own needs will better equip them to sort through emotions. The technique of self soothing is really instinctive, it begins at the crib, we simply need to remind ourselves that we are capable of doing so. Not to mention, your personal health will thank you.
Ready, Set, GOals!
Get out of the wallowing, self-pitty, and victom state of mind. It will pull you down and cause emotional let downs. Put on your running shoes and hit the road. Train your mind to be life-enhancing and goal oriented. Think about it, what are your goals? What is it that you care about and what makes you happy? What has an emotional pull on your thoughts and feelings. Now, write them down. Analyze what you can do to have influence on and set goals to attain your desired outcome. Setting goals are similar to a road map, giving direction to where we want life to take us. It is important to grasp that time has a way ticking by and our use of it will determine whether we are progressing in the right direction emotionally and physically. Read more on Goals that will Thrive here.
Waffles
One can describe emotions as an instinctive state of mind based on ones feelings, moods, surroundings, situations, and relationships. They are the intuitive feeling distinguished from personal reasoning or knowledge. Emotions allow for attachments and expression. Emotions are truly a gift to humankind allowing one to be self aware and socially aware. Although, emotions can be overwhelming at times, if they are broken down as is above, emotions can play an intricate part in ones life. Waffles – Make a list, Compart-mental-ize, Don’t Worry, Talk to Someone, Self Sooth, and Set GOals!
– Now we have the sweet taste of Waffles!